Saving for a Rainy day
If you save into a bank account on a consistent and regular basis you are safe in the knowledge that should trouble hit you can dip into these savings to see you through.
So it is with an emotional bank account. Being attentive and turning towards one another on a daily basis allows you to accumulate 'good-will' that will help you to find strength and resolve in troubled times.
All relationships have times when they become strained and it is in these times of trouble that you will need to reach into the investments you have made in each other and the relationship to carry you through the rough patch.
Investing in an emotional bank account takes consistent effort every day to notice, acknowledge, show kindness, appreciation, help, support, offer affection, listen and make time for one another. These little daily kindnesses pay dividends, and stand as a daily reminder that both are loved and cared for.
A cup of tea in bed, a lie in on the weekend, a genuine compliment, a thoughtful gift, listening, fully engaging when spoken to, a head massage, a warm hug, a loving text, a loving post-it note left on the mirror. All these actions take such small amounts of time but make a huge difference in the environment of the relationship. They keep your emotional bank account topped up for use when you hit bumps in the road.
A cup of tea in bed, a lie in on the weekend, a genuine compliment, a thoughtful gift, listening, fully engaging when spoken to, a head massage, a warm hug, a loving text, a loving post-it note left on the mirror. All these actions take such small amounts of time but make a huge difference in the environment of the relationship. They keep your emotional bank account topped up for use when you hit bumps in the road.
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