Effort
Answer the following questions to see if a lack of effort is adversely effecting your relationship -
- Do you regularly spend quality alone time with your partner?
- Do you make time in the year for a couple of mini- breaks alone?
- Do you put thought and planning into any gifts you buy your partner?
- Do you regularly support your partner with acts of kindness?
- Do you fairly share household tasks?
- Do you take time to think of ways you can be a help and support to your partner?
- Do you take time with your appearance to look good for your partner?
- Do you take time to actively listen to your partner when they have a problem?
- Do you regularly take time to talk and share feelings and news with your partner?
- Do you make an effort on special occasions like anniversaries, Christmas and birthdays?
- Do you make an effort to keep the romance alive in your relationship?
- Is your relationship a priority in your life?
The success we achieve is in direct proportion to the effort we put in. How successful would you be at work if you gave no effort? How would your fitness be effected if you rarely exercised? What would happen to your friendships if you didn't take time to contact and spend time with them?
So why is it that so many couples seem to think that their relationship can survive with little or no attention and effort? Your partner should be one of the most important people in your life. If the questions above left you realising that you are putting very little effort into your relationship you can start immediately to change this. Thats the wonderful thing about this problem is that it can be effectively addressed straight away.
Make time in your weekly schedual for each other, surprise each other with gifts. Take time away just the two of you, help and support one another with household tasks. Take time to notice and compliment. Leave loving notes in unexpected places, cook together, take walks and baths together. Keep the romance alive. Get home from work at a reasonable hour so that you have time every evening together. Meet for lunch. Take time to think about personal gifts for birthdays and anniversaries. Make time for talking, keep in touch with one another thoughts and feelings. Make time for intimacy, play and laughter.
What we choose to give both our attention and effort, thrives. Research has shown that it is from our relationships that we get most of our long term happiness and wellbeing. Isn't it about time your relationship receives the effort it deserves?
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