An exercise to help rebuild connection

An Exercise to help rebuild connection

In relationships that have been damaged by on going acrimony connection becomes lost . Here is an easy and very effective way to start to rebuild the connection, friendship and romance with your partner. 

Begin by both taking a sheet of paper and writing a list of about 20 things you would like your partner to do for you that would help you to feel loved.

This list can include for instance a cup of tea in bed, a 5 minute head massage, a genuine compliment, a morning lie-in, sharing a meal together, going for a short walk holding hands, going to bed naked, taking a shower together, a thoughtful gift. Anything that you feel would help you to feel loved by your partner. 

One you have written the list star the requests that hold most importance to you. Then exchange lists. If there is any request that you really feel unable to do at the present time it is ok to pass on it for now. But hopefully the majority of the list will be agreeable. 

Over the coming weeks gift one of the requests to your partner every day. The receiver should be mindful to be thankful and appreciative. 

Do this every day consistently whether you feel like it or not. I regularly give this exercise to my clients and although they can start off very unsure they regularly comment on how surprised they are at it’s effectiveness. 

In an ailing relationship partners have learnt to turn away from one another creating an ever widening  void between them. This exercise teaches you to consistently turn towards each other, bringing the romance and friendship back into the relationship.